Sunday, June 12, 2011

They are watching you

"Don't worry that your children never listen to you; worry that they are always watching you." Robert Fulghum

Three things I want to mention about this quote:
1. What a great thought. Every moment we are examples to those around us, especially our children. Oh that we would live fully in ways that our children should emulate. Every decision, every thought and attitude, may we emulate our Father so that when our children emulate us we are pleased.
2. There are far too many people who have secret lives at home that their children have to keep secret too. If this is you, repent quickly, change while there is time. You and your kids deserve better. Get help, you will be glad you did.
3. One of the great gifts of communicators, thinkers and writers is the ability to shift us off of the wrong line of thinking and onto the right one. This quote is such a great example of that.
"Why don't my kids listen to me?" is the wrong line of thinking. The answer to the question won't likely help you because you are asking the wrong question. The whole issue is "framed" wrong. You need a paradigm shift. Oh for leaders and communicators that bring clarity into our muddy situations by re-framing them so that we are asking the right questions.