In relationships we can be tempted to focus on the other person when it comes to improvement. We want to fix their faults and ignore our own. The strange thing is that we are focused on them when it comes to fixing but we are focused on ourselves when it comes to meeting needs and wants.
Of course, this is backwards. We need to focus on ourselves when it comes to fixing; examining and working on our faults while learning to overlook others. Then we need to focus on the other person when it comes to meeting wants and needs.
It is better to fix me and serve you than it is to try to fix you and serve me. Putting this into practice would revolutionize many marriages. It is the path of joy.