Question 3. What do you do to keep the fun and laughter in your marriage?
1. You look in the small places, the silly places, the margins of life for fun and laughter. Fun's best gift is when it comes unplanned. Be ready and any moment to turn a dreary, tired night into a funny, silly moment.
2. But don't try too hard. Trying hard to have fun is not as fun as just enjoying the fun we are having.
3. Although this seems like a contradiction, you also need to plan fun and intentionalize it. As with most valuable things, you don't feel like doing it until you are doing it, then it is a blast. So force yourself through the "I am not in the mood stage" and you will be glad you did.
4. What's fun for one person is different than what's fun for another. But even better yet, what two of you find fun most others wouldn't. Find those things that are fun uniquely to you. (To you as a couple, to your family....things others would raise their eyebrows and wonder what planet you are from.)
5. Enjoy small things.
6. Let the fun bringers in the family have free reign in bringing in the fun. And if you are a fun bringer, reign in your fun so that you are bringing it selflessly instead of selfishly. People will love or hate you depending on if you bring your fun for them or for yourself.
1. You look in the small places, the silly places, the margins of life for fun and laughter. Fun's best gift is when it comes unplanned. Be ready and any moment to turn a dreary, tired night into a funny, silly moment.
2. But don't try too hard. Trying hard to have fun is not as fun as just enjoying the fun we are having.
3. Although this seems like a contradiction, you also need to plan fun and intentionalize it. As with most valuable things, you don't feel like doing it until you are doing it, then it is a blast. So force yourself through the "I am not in the mood stage" and you will be glad you did.
4. What's fun for one person is different than what's fun for another. But even better yet, what two of you find fun most others wouldn't. Find those things that are fun uniquely to you. (To you as a couple, to your family....things others would raise their eyebrows and wonder what planet you are from.)
5. Enjoy small things.
6. Let the fun bringers in the family have free reign in bringing in the fun. And if you are a fun bringer, reign in your fun so that you are bringing it selflessly instead of selfishly. People will love or hate you depending on if you bring your fun for them or for yourself.
