Monday, February 21, 2011

What do you do when you feel like quitting?

It is very rare to find a person who doesn't feel like quitting quite regularly. The desire to quit is a part of being human. Whether it's your job, your friendships, your marriage, being a parent, being a Christian, living a moral life, exercising, eating healthy and on and on I could go...we all feel like quitting at times. What do you do?

1. Realize it's normal to feel like quitting. Don't let that feeling draw you into a panic and make you believe lies like, "Maybe I was never meant to marry this person in the first place" etc.)

2. Determine in the light what you will do in the darkness. Plan ahead for the times when you will feel like quitting. When the time comes, work your plan. Part of this is is simply deciding ahead of time that you will never ever divorce your spouse, no matter what.

3. Take some time out. When you feel like quitting, get some space to get your head straight again. Space to pray and think makes a huge difference. Sometimes we are just overstressed and overtired and what we need is to just calm down our inner world and things will make sense again.

4. Hang onto hope. Hope is essential, you don't need a lot of it, but if you run out of it all together you are in big trouble. Hope comes from having a God who is bigger than your circumstances. If you are losing hope, focus on getting your hope back and making it strong.

5. When it comes to the problems in your marriage, look in the mirror. When it comes to the successes, look out the window (credit your spouse).

6. Remember it's not about your happiness. So many times I hear people say, "Well God wants me happy doesn't He?". My simple answer, "Not as much as He wants you holy."

7. Find things that you can appreciate, enjoy, be thankful for etc..

8. Things are rarely as bad as they seem and rarely as good as they seem.